25 Year Old Male Can’t Keep Erection with Girlfriend Who Cheated on Me
ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION QUESTION:
Hi… I’m a 25-year-old male. Never had this problem before.. never have this problem with porn or with my ex… so a while back I was seeing a girl that I’m very much in love with. She cheated on me with her ex at the start of the relationship and it started.
I’ll be perfectly fine.. hard as a rock till I take off my underwear… then it’s kist gone… and won’t come back.. she thinks it’s cuz of the cheating… I do too. but I’ve forgiven her.. how do I stop this…
I’ve had sex with my ex in the time she and I were apart cause of the cheating and no issues. I’ve been hard watching porn minutes before trying to satisfy her.. the night before I even was hard and tried to wake her up with some foreplay it didn’t work but I laid there hard for a good 20-30 minutes counting the before and after time.
I feel miserable… and I feel like if I can’t fix this I’m gonna lose her… please help me
DOCTOR ALSAYES ANSWER:
I’m very sorry to hear that.
Apparently, you are healthy, and you have a temporary ED with this partner in particular. It seems you have a psychological problem related to cheating.
That being said, you should know that the vast majority of cases of ED problems we see in our clinics are due to psychological problems and what makes them harder to treat is that many of these patients refuse to believe it’s just a psychological issue.
Also, you should know that watching too much pornography can lead to ED.
The key to dealing with this situation is to identify the cause and to treat it accordingly, in your case, I advise you first to visit your doctor again and make some evaluation tests to exclude any medical/physical causes, and if all tests came up negative then you need to see a psychotherapist to advise you on how to deal with any stress and/or performance anxiety related to the cheating issue, because it’s not just about forgiveness.
I hope this answers your question.